So, if I found myself becoming really angry at a scenario that I was daydreaming about how would the process work then?
Would you do the process on what you were daydreaming about (the content) or just the fact you were sitting there daydreaming? Is the dream itself an event?
Jesus, Morty. A few minutes ago I was afraid of going to work because of an embarrassing incident that happened yesterday that put my job on the line. Then all of a sudden, as I was analyzing what I was afraid of, something in my head just clicked. I dissolved my occurring using your technique, and it was a biiiiiiiiig relief.
Now, dissolving an occurring is really no big deal, but what really impressed me was that, at that moment, I realized that most of the unpleasant experiences I have are illusions in my mind, and I can dissolve them. One thing is to intellectually understand it, but another very different one is to experience it. Man, thank you for coming up with this technique and sharing it. Now I understand its power.
Great video. I used to struggle with drug addiction and have been clean now for over a year. I was able to get clean using a similar technique to help me gain confidence in myself. Now I’m trying to break more negative beliefs in my head. Thanks for sharing this info for free.
Hi Morty
Thank you so much for sharing this information with us! It really does slot everything into place when I realise that the ‘story ‘ I have created around a situation is not real at all and only how my inner critic (ego) has perceived/interpreted it. Becoming the ‘observer’ of this happening has really liberated me from getting caught up in it all and reminded me to accept that whatever has happened, has just happened – end of story – and let it go!
You have demonstrated very cleary how easy it is to become a ‘victim of circumstances’ – and also how we can reclaim our personal power by not buying in to the ‘stories’!
Thanks again
Trudy
Thank you very much for sharing this. I like this technic because it is easy to be used.
And I ‘ve just tried it to eliminate anxiety caused by different kind of fears. I’ll will let you know if it still works durably.
I hope You understand my english as I’m a french speaker.
The scholarship will be given by lottery to someone who completes both assignments. ALmost 100 people have done that so far. If you don’t feel comfortable about mentioning personal issues, you will not be able to participate. Sorry.
Morty,
I understand the principle of occuring and how the process would work for immediate relief. Yet isn’t occuring a symptom of a deeper belief? If so, would it be better to eliminate the driving belief program hense eliminating the occuring from happening in the first place?
Duane
Four things to consider, first you are right that beliefs are the primary source of our occurrings. So eliminating the beliefs that cause the occurrings will have a significant influence on our occurring in the future. However, at any given moment, long before you identify and eliminate all the beliefs (there could be 10-20 beliefs causing an occurring), you can immediately dissolve the occurring.
Second, occurrings also are caused by moods, physical sensations, etc., so it is not always so easy to stop occurrings merely by eliminating beliefs.
Third, sometimes beliefs can be very subtle and narrow and apply only to very specific situations, so they are not necessary worth eliminating. Yet you can in moments dissolve the occurring.
Finally, by practicing the Lefkoe Occurring Practice enough you can stop giving meaning to most events, regardless of your beleifs.
Hi Morty,
great video and I really enjoy how you integrate the works from “the 3 power laws” into your work
I’ve been using a similar technique of exposing the fear under my upset for a couple of years now and my girlfriend has started to pick it up also.
Getting the fear out on the table to talk about has done wonders for me professionally, personally, and in my relationships.
The next big hurdle is getting out my desires – speaking what I want without filters – and owning that how I say it will directly affect the recipients willingness to fulfill my desire. Maybe you could take on desire next?
I find your technique very powerful. I have used it with situations of stress at work though It would be nice if I could use it more regularly. I have also used this to coach peers who have been able to dissolve the occurrings. I am very keen to learn more. Thanks for this.
We will be sending you more information on the next Lefkoe Occurring Course, where you will learn several techniques for dissolving your occurrings and ultimately get to the point where you rarely even give meaning to events.
Hi Morty,
It seems to me that we all must make meanings up (I can’t get used to this word ‘occurring’) every time we think, or is it just me? For example, when I walk down the street and see people, it’s like I immediately form an opinion about them of some sort by the way they are dressed, their demanour, their behaviour etc. So, instead, how do I just see the fact…purple trousers, leather jacket, unshaven face etc? It’s like I’m aware I make judgements but it seems like it’s so entrenched and ‘me’ that I really don’t know where to start. How can I make an impact on dissolving the meaning on everything I think??? Your bloggers seem to catch on to this new way of thinking immediately, yet, though I understand what it’s about it seems so overwhelming in its application. But I’m pretty sure it’s the answer. I need to do it. I can hardly imagine what it’s like not to analyse or reason or form an opinion. It’s so habitual. I’m not saying it’s always negative but its the negative I need to deal with because of the reactions I get to people who don’t behave as I want them to for example, and for my fears which could be stopped in their tracks if I was adept at not forming an opinion about a potentially fear-provoking situation, or an anger-provoking situation..all my own meaning when it really looks like ‘they are doing something to me!!!’ Only a few hours ago I got incensed when a neighbour told me that she too had contacted the Council to do a job and that neither of us had had an impact;the job is still not done. It’s a familiar story to us all, the obvious incompetance of people we expect to do what they’re paid to do, and they don’t. It really irks me. So this programme is new stuff, attempting something so I don’t get on my high horse, So then, what should I do now. I ask myself “What was the event?” Well the Council haven’t yet done the job” (Fact; anyone would see that). So what meaning did I give to it in order to experience the feeling of exasperation and annoyance, anger? “They should do better than that”, ie my expectation. “They’re making excuses for their incompetance” “They’re messing us about”. “A bunch of good-for-nothings” (to put it lightly!). “This sort of thing is always happening these days”…..etc etc.
So, now can I make the distinction between the event and the meaning I gave to it? Hardly. To be honest with you this is difficult. I’m still ‘seeing’ INCOMPETENT IDIOTS! It’s a decision I’ve made about them because of their behaviour and I’m not really listening to any other meanings there might be in reality. Neither am I being kind to them for their apparent incompetence! haha. See how stuck I am after ten minutes working it through. Morty, it is just so hard to ACCEPT situations as meaningless, especially when I believe people MEAN to behave in a certain way. I mean , I myself MEAN to do things don’t I? I have intent and that’s meaning isn’t it? I understand the concept of ‘being’ ‘just is’ and not wanting to control or change things but I can’t get the sculptor into a position of maturity here, a passive non-resisting, accepting the fact position without judgement, opinion, meaning. This blog is a blow-by-blow account of me trying to work myself out and realising how pathetic my attempt is. I’m gonna have to knuckle down to this stuff in practise.
In this exercise I am giving you a simple exercise that some oeple will be able to use to dissolve the menaing they give events (their occurring). Other will not be able to do it.
The Lefkoe Occurring Course provides a lot of instruction and personal coaching on how to use the Lefkoe Occurring Process to dissolve meaning all the time. Most people complete the course not giving meaning to most events, and able to dissolve meaning quickly and easily when they do assign meaning.
It takes a lot of practice to be able to easily dissolve meaning. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to easily do it on your first try.
Most people have judgments about everything all the time. And it is possible to stop them.
AJW,
In your example you made a good start. It is hard to get your mind out of the rut that develops over time. But the answer is right in your post.
“It’s a decision I’ve made about them because of their behaviour and I’m not really listening to any other meanings there might be in reality.”
What you can actually “see” is that the work is not done. You don’t know WHY it’s not done. Maybe they had other priorities. Maybe the person who was to do the work got sick. These meanings don’t imply incompetence, idiocy or laziness. The decision you made, the meaning you applied, Incompetent Idiots, is not a fact in evidence. Think like a defense lawyer and find alternative explanations to put that ‘shadow of a doubt’ in your mind.
I suspect what you are really upset about is the appearance of being ignored. That hurts your ego. But are you really being ignored? The reasons I gave above imply that there is a good chance YOU are not being ignored, but the work you requested has a low priority. Everyone has a different opinion of priorities. Theirs is different from yours.
Do you have to do this for EVERYTHING you think? No. Just on those things that upset you. If you did it on everything, that would probably inhibit your happiness because you would reduce it to facts!!!!
We all make judgements all the time. It’s part of our survival mechanisms. We need to be able to determine if something as a threat quickly. We do that by classifying and categorizing it. It also helps to keep the clutter down in our minds and conversations. We say co-workers instead of naming them individually when talking to someone outside that group.
I’m sure Morty’s course would help you. Practicing with events that don’t upset you greatly is a great way to start. But nothing beats having outside feedback.
This is incredibly interesting to me; simple and straightforward. Once I went through the steps, I could totally see the reality and my meaning as separate entities. I have no feelings of anger or powerlessness when I observe the actual events, and interestingly enough, begin to feel them in my chest again when I look over at the meaning I had given them. Woohoo! I have choice, and that in itself makes me feel powerful! I am very happy that you shared this ~ thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Congratulations! Yes, you can learn how to make a distinction that leads to dissolving your occurrings, and the negative feelings that stem form those occurrings.
In my course people practice exercises so many times that they seem to create a new neural pathway that bypasses the meaning-making part of the brain, so that they actually stop giving meaning to most events.
I have a question, which is that I’m wondering why you’re not offering the Lefkoe Occurring Course as a DVD as you did with Natural Confidence? A DVD would reach far more people and would really spread your message, in addition, the cost of the LOC and the inconvenience if you’re not based in the states is a barrier.
Do you have any plans to offer the basic steps as something other than a webinar? From what I see the process has great benefit and should be able to be self taught via a DVD or something similar and I know a big part of your thinking is to change as many lives as possible.
As someone who has benefitted from the Nat Conf course, would be great to know that you were thinking of spreading this wide also. I know a pre-requisite for the LOC is completing that course, but you could offer it to those who have purchased and can tell you about the changes it’s made to their lives.
I’ve been trying to figure out how the turn the Lefkoe Occurring Course into a DVD for over a year. It seems to require personal coaching every week for every participant. Also the group experience seems to be very important.
At some point I probably will figure out how to do it, but for the moment I don’t know how.
Only you know the ins and outs of the process and how much more beneficial it is in a ‘live’ and group environment than self mastery through a DVD. The above video is a great example of the technique but I’m assuming the homework and the group accountability goes a long way to ensuring people are successful on the course. I’m not doubting that.
You said above that there were four ways to dissolve the occurrings, maybe some time in the future you can share on here, or via DVD what those four ways are as it’s clear some people are already seeing the benefits from this short video.
For me the money isn’t the issue, it’s committing the same time every week as I have a busy life and I find webinars are painful, especially in a different time zone. I look forward to more information though and hope that you can share some more of these techniques that are really life changing.
Part of the reason I can’t do a DVD is that people MUST do a weekly assignment and if they have a DVD it is easy to say, I’ll do it later. If there is a class where I will be giving feedback to each participant, they have a deadline and usually do their weekly assignment.
To get to the point where you create a new neural pathway in the brain and stop giving meaning to most events you need to practice every day for several weeks.
Yesterday, I got an e-mail with a link that led me to assignment 2 and I could practice a lot. Now, I wanted to post my sharing and with the same link, I no longer get the right page. What can I do? Thanks and bravo for the great job! Robert
What if you no for a fact what happened. I hurt someone feelings, did not mean to, the other person miss understood what I said. Plus it’s to late to fix it now. I’m sure I will never see him again. I feel so bad. It happened months a go and I can’t get over it. Please help. I don’t want him to hate me he was very good to me.
Thank you, Morty and Rodney, for your reply about my difficulty to find the right link for assignment 2. Eventually, I remembered I had to write my name and e-mail again to reach the said page and I wrote down my sharing (a long one).
Warmly, Robert
Hello Morty,
Thanks for this opportunity. I completed both assignments, but made an error and the first assignment was posted as a reply to M.K.
If you need me to post it correctly, please let me know.
Thank you so much for all the love you and Shelley share!
Love, Pamala
Thank you for the video. I understand the concept but it is hard to apply the process fast enough to make a difference. I have always been a shy person who is afraid to make a mistake. I am always worried about what other people will think of me. I know I can not see what others think. I know that is just my “occuring”.
I am hoping that this process will help. Thank you!
You can stop worrying about making a mistake when you eliminate a couple of beliefs about mistakes. One of the most important (mistakes and failure are bad) is on our free belief-elimination site: http://recreateyourlife.com.
In order to be able to apply this process quickly you need to practice it a lot. That’s what we do in my Occurring Course.
My husband cheated on me and left me for another woman. You have no idea how many meanings/occurings I have attached to this. I am up at 5am because every night I have a hard time sleeping with all the panick and anguish in my heart. So the cheating is just an event and my thoughts around it are an occuring and I can move them aside. That is big. I hate how repetitive this work is but it is neat that is simple and to the point and that it works.
dear robert,
please
when you believe in yourself and in your talent to get something,
but there is always something that block my success (new contract)
what is the beliefs that is causing me this experience ?
thank you.
robert
At work my manager would leave me alone for hours on end to handle customer inquiries. I would see him socializing and laughing with other employees. My occurring was he didn’t like interacting with me that i wasn’t entertaining. Now i see i gave these events a meaning that could be seen in a totally different light. I now believe he is totally confident in my ability to handle customers. Our interaction is lighter now.
I really like what you have presented in this video. I can’t thank you enough for the help I received from your videos and from the Natural Confidence course.
I’ll been trying to improve my self-esteem for the past decade or so and I felt this year I have the most improvement than all my years combined. I’m so lucky and grateful to have stumbled upon your website. I learn so much from you in these couple of months. =)
That’s many more beliefs and conditions to eliminate, and occurring to dissolve, but I’m more confident that I can do it now and even looking forward of eliminate them.
I wish you and your family an early christmas and a happy 2012! Thank you!
There are several ways to eliminate the beleifs you need to get rid of.
First, you can have phone or Skype sessions with us. We will help you find and then eliminate the beliefs that cause any problems in your life. For more information about these sessions please call us at 415-884-0552.
Second, you can be trained to eliminate beliefs yourself once you know what they are. For information, check out http://lefkoeuniversity.com.
Third, we have a digital product that helps you eliminate the most common 23 beleifs and conditionings, that cause the most common everyday problems in our lives. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.
If you have any additional questions, please let me know.
I am soft by nature. For any thing because of fear i will get into problem. I am afraid for some thing
I doknow what stops me for get out of box.
can u coachme to come out. one example is i afraid to build house because i don’t have money. Last 5 years over
What a wonderful and simple approach to allowing “The Observer” to work its magic…As I named the issue and gave myself the correct perspective I could see the truth and illusion in each belief…. I am no longer controlled by it…I grant my Self permission to create my life anew in each aware Now Moment…and have renewed energy to bring to my life’s creations.
Congratulations on the results you achieved with the Natural Confidence program.
The Occurring Course is the next step, where you learn how to stop giving meaning to events as the happen, moment by moment. Try the exercise here to get a sense of what’
s possible.
cant a meaning that we give to an event, which is causing us emotional suffering be true. For examples i’ve never excelled at my passion becasue of my fear. Most of the time when I know I should be taking the risk to move forward, i dont. then I start to experience the dissapointment from the meaning i gave it which is “Orrie, you are letting your fear get in the way continuosly. You will never get ahead if you dont take chances and allow your fear to stop you.” how is that meaning that Im giving to not taking risk not true?
There is no way to explain that events have no inherent meaning, other than to say that you don’t know anything FOR SURE as a result of any event. You can’t make any predictions FOR SURE.
The best way to get that events have no meaning is to eliminate the 19 beliefs on the NC program and discover experientially that none of the events that led to a belief has any meaning.
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Hi Morty,
I was wondering, is daydreaming about nothing in particular, no real event or past event, simply dreaming , is that considered an occurring?
Hi Kurt,
Daydreaming is reality, an event, not an occurring. An occurring is the meaning you give an event, like a daydream.
Love, Morty
So, if I found myself becoming really angry at a scenario that I was daydreaming about how would the process work then?
Would you do the process on what you were daydreaming about (the content) or just the fact you were sitting there daydreaming? Is the dream itself an event?
thanks
Jesus, Morty. A few minutes ago I was afraid of going to work because of an embarrassing incident that happened yesterday that put my job on the line. Then all of a sudden, as I was analyzing what I was afraid of, something in my head just clicked. I dissolved my occurring using your technique, and it was a biiiiiiiiig relief.
Now, dissolving an occurring is really no big deal, but what really impressed me was that, at that moment, I realized that most of the unpleasant experiences I have are illusions in my mind, and I can dissolve them. One thing is to intellectually understand it, but another very different one is to experience it. Man, thank you for coming up with this technique and sharing it. Now I understand its power.
Great video. I used to struggle with drug addiction and have been clean now for over a year. I was able to get clean using a similar technique to help me gain confidence in myself. Now I’m trying to break more negative beliefs in my head. Thanks for sharing this info for free.
Jason Mears
Hi Morty
Thank you so much for sharing this information with us! It really does slot everything into place when I realise that the ‘story ‘ I have created around a situation is not real at all and only how my inner critic (ego) has perceived/interpreted it. Becoming the ‘observer’ of this happening has really liberated me from getting caught up in it all and reminded me to accept that whatever has happened, has just happened – end of story – and let it go!
You have demonstrated very cleary how easy it is to become a ‘victim of circumstances’ – and also how we can reclaim our personal power by not buying in to the ‘stories’!
Thanks again
Trudy
Thank you very much for sharing this. I like this technic because it is easy to be used.
And I ‘ve just tried it to eliminate anxiety caused by different kind of fears. I’ll will let you know if it still works durably.
I hope You understand my english as I’m a french speaker.
Thanks again
I would like to know what the scholarship is about? The only problems that I can think of dissolving are rather personal.
Hi Ben,
The scholarship will be given by lottery to someone who completes both assignments. ALmost 100 people have done that so far. If you don’t feel comfortable about mentioning personal issues, you will not be able to participate. Sorry.
Love, Morty
But, what is this scholarship? Is it money or something that hangs on your wall?
Ben,
It is free tuition to my next Lefkoe Occurring Course.
Love, Morty
Something that has been weighing me down for months has just dissappeared. You truely are a gift from god. Thankyou
Your video is helpful. I catch myself regularly giving false meaning to events. This technique will help overcome unnecessary anxiety.
Morty,
I understand the principle of occuring and how the process would work for immediate relief. Yet isn’t occuring a symptom of a deeper belief? If so, would it be better to eliminate the driving belief program hense eliminating the occuring from happening in the first place?
Duane
Hi Duane,
Four things to consider, first you are right that beliefs are the primary source of our occurrings. So eliminating the beliefs that cause the occurrings will have a significant influence on our occurring in the future. However, at any given moment, long before you identify and eliminate all the beliefs (there could be 10-20 beliefs causing an occurring), you can immediately dissolve the occurring.
Second, occurrings also are caused by moods, physical sensations, etc., so it is not always so easy to stop occurrings merely by eliminating beliefs.
Third, sometimes beliefs can be very subtle and narrow and apply only to very specific situations, so they are not necessary worth eliminating. Yet you can in moments dissolve the occurring.
Finally, by practicing the Lefkoe Occurring Practice enough you can stop giving meaning to most events, regardless of your beleifs.
Thanks for your interest in our work.
Love, Morty
I’m curious is this process works on compulsive behaviors that so many people have with additions like drugs, food, alcohol, shopping, gambling etc…
Sorry… meant to type “addictions.”
Hi Morty,
great video and I really enjoy how you integrate the works from “the 3 power laws” into your work
I’ve been using a similar technique of exposing the fear under my upset for a couple of years now and my girlfriend has started to pick it up also.
Getting the fear out on the table to talk about has done wonders for me professionally, personally, and in my relationships.
The next big hurdle is getting out my desires – speaking what I want without filters – and owning that how I say it will directly affect the recipients willingness to fulfill my desire. Maybe you could take on desire next?
Thanks for all the great work,
B-)
Hi Morty,
I find your technique very powerful. I have used it with situations of stress at work though It would be nice if I could use it more regularly. I have also used this to coach peers who have been able to dissolve the occurrings. I am very keen to learn more. Thanks for this.
Hi Chiraag,
I’m glad you have found our work useful.
We will be sending you more information on the next Lefkoe Occurring Course, where you will learn several techniques for dissolving your occurrings and ultimately get to the point where you rarely even give meaning to events.
Love,Morty
Thanks this video was so helpful!!
Hi Erika,
Glad you found it useful.
Wouldn’t it be great to live this way: dissolving our occurrings all the time as they come up?
Love,Morty
Hi Morty,
It seems to me that we all must make meanings up (I can’t get used to this word ‘occurring’) every time we think, or is it just me? For example, when I walk down the street and see people, it’s like I immediately form an opinion about them of some sort by the way they are dressed, their demanour, their behaviour etc. So, instead, how do I just see the fact…purple trousers, leather jacket, unshaven face etc? It’s like I’m aware I make judgements but it seems like it’s so entrenched and ‘me’ that I really don’t know where to start. How can I make an impact on dissolving the meaning on everything I think??? Your bloggers seem to catch on to this new way of thinking immediately, yet, though I understand what it’s about it seems so overwhelming in its application. But I’m pretty sure it’s the answer. I need to do it. I can hardly imagine what it’s like not to analyse or reason or form an opinion. It’s so habitual. I’m not saying it’s always negative but its the negative I need to deal with because of the reactions I get to people who don’t behave as I want them to for example, and for my fears which could be stopped in their tracks if I was adept at not forming an opinion about a potentially fear-provoking situation, or an anger-provoking situation..all my own meaning when it really looks like ‘they are doing something to me!!!’ Only a few hours ago I got incensed when a neighbour told me that she too had contacted the Council to do a job and that neither of us had had an impact;the job is still not done. It’s a familiar story to us all, the obvious incompetance of people we expect to do what they’re paid to do, and they don’t. It really irks me. So this programme is new stuff, attempting something so I don’t get on my high horse, So then, what should I do now. I ask myself “What was the event?” Well the Council haven’t yet done the job” (Fact; anyone would see that). So what meaning did I give to it in order to experience the feeling of exasperation and annoyance, anger? “They should do better than that”, ie my expectation. “They’re making excuses for their incompetance” “They’re messing us about”. “A bunch of good-for-nothings” (to put it lightly!). “This sort of thing is always happening these days”…..etc etc.
So, now can I make the distinction between the event and the meaning I gave to it? Hardly. To be honest with you this is difficult. I’m still ‘seeing’ INCOMPETENT IDIOTS! It’s a decision I’ve made about them because of their behaviour and I’m not really listening to any other meanings there might be in reality. Neither am I being kind to them for their apparent incompetence! haha. See how stuck I am after ten minutes working it through. Morty, it is just so hard to ACCEPT situations as meaningless, especially when I believe people MEAN to behave in a certain way. I mean , I myself MEAN to do things don’t I? I have intent and that’s meaning isn’t it? I understand the concept of ‘being’ ‘just is’ and not wanting to control or change things but I can’t get the sculptor into a position of maturity here, a passive non-resisting, accepting the fact position without judgement, opinion, meaning. This blog is a blow-by-blow account of me trying to work myself out and realising how pathetic my attempt is. I’m gonna have to knuckle down to this stuff in practise.
Hi AJW,
In this exercise I am giving you a simple exercise that some oeple will be able to use to dissolve the menaing they give events (their occurring). Other will not be able to do it.
The Lefkoe Occurring Course provides a lot of instruction and personal coaching on how to use the Lefkoe Occurring Process to dissolve meaning all the time. Most people complete the course not giving meaning to most events, and able to dissolve meaning quickly and easily when they do assign meaning.
It takes a lot of practice to be able to easily dissolve meaning. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to easily do it on your first try.
Most people have judgments about everything all the time. And it is possible to stop them.
Love, Morty
AJW,
In your example you made a good start. It is hard to get your mind out of the rut that develops over time. But the answer is right in your post.
“It’s a decision I’ve made about them because of their behaviour and I’m not really listening to any other meanings there might be in reality.”
What you can actually “see” is that the work is not done. You don’t know WHY it’s not done. Maybe they had other priorities. Maybe the person who was to do the work got sick. These meanings don’t imply incompetence, idiocy or laziness. The decision you made, the meaning you applied, Incompetent Idiots, is not a fact in evidence. Think like a defense lawyer and find alternative explanations to put that ‘shadow of a doubt’ in your mind.
I suspect what you are really upset about is the appearance of being ignored. That hurts your ego. But are you really being ignored? The reasons I gave above imply that there is a good chance YOU are not being ignored, but the work you requested has a low priority. Everyone has a different opinion of priorities. Theirs is different from yours.
Do you have to do this for EVERYTHING you think? No. Just on those things that upset you. If you did it on everything, that would probably inhibit your happiness because you would reduce it to facts!!!!
We all make judgements all the time. It’s part of our survival mechanisms. We need to be able to determine if something as a threat quickly. We do that by classifying and categorizing it. It also helps to keep the clutter down in our minds and conversations. We say co-workers instead of naming them individually when talking to someone outside that group.
I’m sure Morty’s course would help you. Practicing with events that don’t upset you greatly is a great way to start. But nothing beats having outside feedback.
Good Luck
This is incredibly interesting to me; simple and straightforward. Once I went through the steps, I could totally see the reality and my meaning as separate entities. I have no feelings of anger or powerlessness when I observe the actual events, and interestingly enough, begin to feel them in my chest again when I look over at the meaning I had given them. Woohoo! I have choice, and that in itself makes me feel powerful! I am very happy that you shared this ~ thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Hi Denise,
Congratulations! Yes, you can learn how to make a distinction that leads to dissolving your occurrings, and the negative feelings that stem form those occurrings.
In my course people practice exercises so many times that they seem to create a new neural pathway that bypasses the meaning-making part of the brain, so that they actually stop giving meaning to most events.
Love,Morty
Hey Morty,
I have a question, which is that I’m wondering why you’re not offering the Lefkoe Occurring Course as a DVD as you did with Natural Confidence? A DVD would reach far more people and would really spread your message, in addition, the cost of the LOC and the inconvenience if you’re not based in the states is a barrier.
Do you have any plans to offer the basic steps as something other than a webinar? From what I see the process has great benefit and should be able to be self taught via a DVD or something similar and I know a big part of your thinking is to change as many lives as possible.
As someone who has benefitted from the Nat Conf course, would be great to know that you were thinking of spreading this wide also. I know a pre-requisite for the LOC is completing that course, but you could offer it to those who have purchased and can tell you about the changes it’s made to their lives.
Thanks Morty, appreciate it
Regards
James
Hi James,
I’ve been trying to figure out how the turn the Lefkoe Occurring Course into a DVD for over a year. It seems to require personal coaching every week for every participant. Also the group experience seems to be very important.
At some point I probably will figure out how to do it, but for the moment I don’t know how.
Sorry.
Love, Morty
Hey Morty, thanks for the response.
Only you know the ins and outs of the process and how much more beneficial it is in a ‘live’ and group environment than self mastery through a DVD. The above video is a great example of the technique but I’m assuming the homework and the group accountability goes a long way to ensuring people are successful on the course. I’m not doubting that.
You said above that there were four ways to dissolve the occurrings, maybe some time in the future you can share on here, or via DVD what those four ways are as it’s clear some people are already seeing the benefits from this short video.
For me the money isn’t the issue, it’s committing the same time every week as I have a busy life and I find webinars are painful, especially in a different time zone. I look forward to more information though and hope that you can share some more of these techniques that are really life changing.
Thanks Morty, keep up the great work!
James
Hi James,
Part of the reason I can’t do a DVD is that people MUST do a weekly assignment and if they have a DVD it is easy to say, I’ll do it later. If there is a class where I will be giving feedback to each participant, they have a deadline and usually do their weekly assignment.
To get to the point where you create a new neural pathway in the brain and stop giving meaning to most events you need to practice every day for several weeks.
Love,Morty
thanks so much it help me a lot to understand somthing in my work . bless you
judy
Hi Judy,
I’m glad the video was helpful. Watch them all and learn even more.
Love, Morty
Yesterday, I got an e-mail with a link that led me to assignment 2 and I could practice a lot. Now, I wanted to post my sharing and with the same link, I no longer get the right page. What can I do? Thanks and bravo for the great job! Robert
Hi Robert,
This is the right page for the second assignment.
Love,Morty
What if you no for a fact what happened. I hurt someone feelings, did not mean to, the other person miss understood what I said. Plus it’s to late to fix it now. I’m sure I will never see him again. I feel so bad. It happened months a go and I can’t get over it. Please help. I don’t want him to hate me he was very good to me.
Hi Linda,
What happened is that you said something and were misunderstood and the other person felt hurt and isn’t talking to you.
What meaning are you giving to that event?
Love,Morty
That he thinks that I don’t appreciate what he did, but I really do.
So how do I get over this problem I still feel so bad? I want him to know the truth.
Thank you, Morty and Rodney, for your reply about my difficulty to find the right link for assignment 2. Eventually, I remembered I had to write my name and e-mail again to reach the said page and I wrote down my sharing (a long one).
Warmly, Robert
Hello Morty,
Thanks for this opportunity. I completed both assignments, but made an error and the first assignment was posted as a reply to M.K.
If you need me to post it correctly, please let me know.
Thank you so much for all the love you and Shelley share!
Love, Pamala
Thank you for the video. I understand the concept but it is hard to apply the process fast enough to make a difference. I have always been a shy person who is afraid to make a mistake. I am always worried about what other people will think of me. I know I can not see what others think. I know that is just my “occuring”.
I am hoping that this process will help. Thank you!
Hi Anne,
Thanks for your comments.
You can stop worrying about making a mistake when you eliminate a couple of beliefs about mistakes. One of the most important (mistakes and failure are bad) is on our free belief-elimination site: http://recreateyourlife.com.
In order to be able to apply this process quickly you need to practice it a lot. That’s what we do in my Occurring Course.
But it is possible to make it almost automatic.
Love, Morty
My husband cheated on me and left me for another woman. You have no idea how many meanings/occurings I have attached to this. I am up at 5am because every night I have a hard time sleeping with all the panick and anguish in my heart. So the cheating is just an event and my thoughts around it are an occuring and I can move them aside. That is big. I hate how repetitive this work is but it is neat that is simple and to the point and that it works.
Morty I can not see where to write my answer to assignment #1.
Hi Alan,
Write it where you wrote your question.
Thanks for interest in our work. Looking forward to seeing your response to assignment #1.
Love,Morty
Morty I can not see where to write my answer to assignment #1.
dear robert,
please
when you believe in yourself and in your talent to get something,
but there is always something that block my success (new contract)
what is the beliefs that is causing me this experience ?
thank you.
robert
At work my manager would leave me alone for hours on end to handle customer inquiries. I would see him socializing and laughing with other employees. My occurring was he didn’t like interacting with me that i wasn’t entertaining. Now i see i gave these events a meaning that could be seen in a totally different light. I now believe he is totally confident in my ability to handle customers. Our interaction is lighter now.
Hey Morty,
I really like what you have presented in this video. I can’t thank you enough for the help I received from your videos and from the Natural Confidence course.
I’ll been trying to improve my self-esteem for the past decade or so and I felt this year I have the most improvement than all my years combined. I’m so lucky and grateful to have stumbled upon your website. I learn so much from you in these couple of months. =)
That’s many more beliefs and conditions to eliminate, and occurring to dissolve, but I’m more confident that I can do it now and even looking forward of eliminate them.
I wish you and your family an early christmas and a happy 2012! Thank you!
Sincerely,
Yong Kang
Hi Yong Kang,
There are several ways to eliminate the beleifs you need to get rid of.
First, you can have phone or Skype sessions with us. We will help you find and then eliminate the beliefs that cause any problems in your life. For more information about these sessions please call us at 415-884-0552.
Second, you can be trained to eliminate beliefs yourself once you know what they are. For information, check out http://lefkoeuniversity.com.
Third, we have a digital product that helps you eliminate the most common 23 beleifs and conditionings, that cause the most common everyday problems in our lives. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.
If you have any additional questions, please let me know.
Happy holidays.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
Thanks for your reply. I’ve already completed the Natural Confidence. Looking forward to do the Occurring Course one day. =)
I am soft by nature. For any thing because of fear i will get into problem. I am afraid for some thing
I doknow what stops me for get out of box.
can u coachme to come out. one example is i afraid to build house because i don’t have money. Last 5 years over
V Shankar
Hi,
We can help you overcome your fear in private one-to-one phone sessions. Call us for more information at 415-884-0662.
Love, Morty
Hey Morty, there was not a place to sign up, so how can I go to the next site or join/enter? Please provide a way, thank you!
Jeanette
Jeanette,
Look at the top of this page and you’ll see a sign-up box on the right in yellow.
Love, Morty
Just on the last Belief #19 of your program…
What a wonderful and simple approach to allowing “The Observer” to work its magic…As I named the issue and gave myself the correct perspective I could see the truth and illusion in each belief…. I am no longer controlled by it…I grant my Self permission to create my life anew in each aware Now Moment…and have renewed energy to bring to my life’s creations.
Thank you greatly for the Lefkoe method!
Hi John,
Congratulations on the results you achieved with the Natural Confidence program.
The Occurring Course is the next step, where you learn how to stop giving meaning to events as the happen, moment by moment. Try the exercise here to get a sense of what’
s possible.
Love, Morty
cant a meaning that we give to an event, which is causing us emotional suffering be true. For examples i’ve never excelled at my passion becasue of my fear. Most of the time when I know I should be taking the risk to move forward, i dont. then I start to experience the dissapointment from the meaning i gave it which is “Orrie, you are letting your fear get in the way continuosly. You will never get ahead if you dont take chances and allow your fear to stop you.” how is that meaning that Im giving to not taking risk not true?
Hi Orrie,
There is no way to explain that events have no inherent meaning, other than to say that you don’t know anything FOR SURE as a result of any event. You can’t make any predictions FOR SURE.
The best way to get that events have no meaning is to eliminate the 19 beliefs on the NC program and discover experientially that none of the events that led to a belief has any meaning.
Love, Morty
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